Tuesday, July 14, 2009

New Day!

Common conversation in the Hodder household:

Jen: We should call Davis.

Jen: Do you want to call Davis?

Dave: I don't know, we probably should, what do you think?

Jen: I don't know, I guess, can you call, I am not strong enough at this point

Dave: Yeah, I'll call.

Dave: Beep, beep, boop, boop, beep, boop, beep (that's dialing)

Jen: Paces, hangs on EVERY word and then wants a written transcript afterward.

Sometimes this goes the other way though and I feel strong enough to call. This morning....NO WAY....I asked him to call and call me back. The nurse said they were unable to take her down to CT because they had some emergency traumas come in (that was Aviana 29 days ago, that was us) She said they were waiting to talk to Dr. Muuizlaar (our Dutch doc, he is the one who performed her 4th surgery and is too funny) for further instruction.

She said they tapped her head, (how things have changed, prior to this, I had only really commonly heard of tapping a beer) and the lumbar drain started working. They drained off most of the fluid which was built up. She said she is not sure they are even going to need the CT scan at this point and that she thinks she was maybe just sleepy from the medication yesterday. She said she is unsure at this point if they are going to want to check for mini strokes. She will let us know later.

Today is a new day, a better day thus far :o)


  1. Oh my friends you so deserve a better today and tomorrow and the day after!!!! I am so sorry that you had to take a step backward yesterday. So sorry you continually have to hear and feel things no one ever should! You three are the strongest people I know and I wish dearly I didn't have to know that about you because it is only through trials that ones strength is truly shown. You continue to be in our thoughts and prayers I wish telling you this over and over would be more helpful. Would do more for both of you and Aviana. But alas I will continue to sit on the side lines and be the best cheering squad I can be. So here is to a much much better day today!!!!

  2. It sounds to me like you guys are taking the steps (both the forward and back steps) in stride. The backwards ones are definitely disappointing, but sometimes necessary. My lung transplant friend is back in ICU...she feels your pain!! It's so hard to believe it's been 29 days. You've all been through so much. I'm sure you wonder how much more you'll have to take, but little Aviana has been through it with you. Find strength in her strength!! One of these days, you'll look back and say "How the heck did we get through this?" Your family, your friends, Sgt. Merenda and the other people who helped, the wonderful people (nurses, doctors, social workers, etc) at UCD Med Center, the grace of God, your love for your little angel, and especially that Dutch doctor...anyone with the double double vowel thing going on HAS to be good luck!! :-)

    Hang tight, 'cuz! Your prayers will be answered! Love you!!


  3. Each day brings with it it's own struggles and miracles. Sometimes it more struggle than miracles and sometimes it's the other way around. I only wish there was something I could do for you and your family. Please know that my entire family is praying for you. My mom comes over every day and checks your blog. She also asks me if there is anything new going on with Aviana. We've never met you but the love and anguish comes through your writing and we are all praying for the best possible outcome.

  4. Jen--I look at your "spot" every Tues./Thurs. awaiting your return to the gym. Thank you for your blog, because, hopefully in addition to helping your family, it has helped me and I'm sure many, in different ways--plus, who knew the quiet gal from the treadmill and Basic class was such an eloquent writer???--your words touch me every time--feel weird looking forward to reading--wish we weren't type-of-thing--but like I mentioned, they help me remember what's important and empathize for your situation--I use the empathy term loosly, because my situation wasn't nearly as close to me as is yours--but my father-in-law was in accident right before I was married, and we drove to So.Cal every weekend and just waited and received the medical education that we never wanted--hearing you reminds me of so many things--getting to know the staff (and grateful that I never went into that line of work), but realizing the heros that they are--the ventricals,draining, tests, other families, etc.--the brain is amazing, huh??--too bad it takes a long time to heal, but my father-in-law now has an annual bbq for the hospital staff that helped him so much--I hope to hear about you and the Davis crowd getting together some day soon--thank you, also, for the kind words you said about the sports Center gang--was nice to see it's such a family--now I feel more a part of that too--please know we continue to be with you in spirit, and hopefully we can visit soon--I'll bring Miss Judy or something, ok--continue to take care of yourself in the meantime--Love, Barbara Rogers

  5. I'm so sorry that you have to go up and down like that. It is so difficult just to see your baby hurting, and to have the guy freak out like that had to be scary. We are praying for all of you. We're hoping to come down Thursday afternoon if you are up for visitors. Hope to see you soon!


  6. I'm sorry that things keep going up and down for you. Prayers for Aviana are going out from everyone I know.

  7. Please know we think of you and your family every day and send such special prayers for Aviana.