Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Maybe It's Just Me.....

...but when I see a blog or any other item that says something like, "Ask Me Anything" I feel instantly uncomfortable.  For instance, Oprah is one of my very favorite people and her magazine currently is totting one of these type of statements.  It just makes me instantly stop and want to say, "I'm sorry, who do you think you are?"

I do however feel there is an arrogant way to ask, and a slightly less arrogant way.  I hope to fall into the latter category :o)

Above is the long and short of why you have never seen such a thing on my blog....until now!  O.K. as I write, I am beginning to think I may be the only one with this weird line of thinking.

What I am trying to say is, I feel uncomfortable asking if you have any questions of me, but feel I need to for a few reasons:

1.  Blogger falls short in the follow up category.  Numerous people have asked me questions in the comments section of this blog and I (more often than not) have been unable to answer.  For the most part, these questions have been lost in the shuffle.

If I have answered back in the comments section, I have no idea if that person ever got the response. By the way, I don't even know if the people who asked the questions follow this long-winded story anymore.  I just had light bulb moment, I should have named my blog, The Long and Winded Road :-)

2. My family and friends have often asked me questions, which I thought I covered in the blog, but never had. They have brought it to my attention and advised I include such information.  To break it down, my brain is fried and many times I overlook what is obviously missing.

3. I don't intentionally skip any sort of information within this story. So, if I have omitted something, it was by accident.  I am truly an opened book about everything.

4. I don't want any of you who have asked questions to think that I didn't want to answer or just simply ignored it.  I just don't have a good way to get back to you.

So yesterday, could've been the day before....I was asked, what is the patterning table and what does it help with?

Patterning is done 7 days a week and takes 3 people at one time.  2 people hold one of Aviana's arms and one of her legs and the 3rd person holds her head.  We move her simultaneously in the crawling position for 8 sessions of 3 minutes with 10 minutes between each session.  It takes up to about 2 hours a day.

Patterning is a procedure, which programs the brain.  Patterning is a sensory program for Aviana. With each motion, we are providing her brain with the tactile information of "This is how it feels to move."

So, long story short, if you have any questions....ask! Funny questions, serious questions, questions questions, any type of question :o)  And if you don't, that's great too.

** Kama just let me know that she is opened for questions too. Like, how does a tragedy like this affect your psyche? What's it like to be able to kiss her as much as you want, without her running away? How did you feel when the amount of food on the floor was slashed by 75%?


  1. I stumbled upon your blog a few months ago. I was deeply moved by what you have been through with your beautiful daughter. I cried when I read your whole story and still cry when I read some of the struggles you go through daily with Aviana. I want you to know that I pray for your daughter, your husband I pray for you and even Kama :) God is able to make a beautiful masterpiece out of your life right now. How is your relationship with God through this trial? My prayer is that you will lean on Him and seek Him for guidance :)

  2. ok...i have a VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION for you my dear friend..........................

    GFA...Sept 2010. ARE YOU GOING??????

    other than that, you have been very good about answering questions that i haven't even thought to ask. and i also have very much enjoyed reading your saga.

    life IS a long & winded road....thank you for sharing yours (and avianna & dave & kama's) with all of us!!!

  3. No, but there is supposed to be another Gary Allen special on GAC soon. :)

  4. Glad Kama is there for Avi too. Dogs are great therapists! :)

  5. Well, if ever I had a question. It would be, "Could you describe your Adoption Adventure of Aviana...." I love reading how we were blessed with our babes. It's off the subject...but not really. Like, where in Guate was she from? Did you foster in Guate (I did), etc..." Just the fun memories of a whole different time that is now a monument with the closed Adoptions in Guatemala. :( Sending you good thoughts.